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Most of us are probably guilty of being lazy in the “sack” sometimes. (I mean, the majority of sex happens in bed. It’s hard to get amped up when it’s so cozy!) For days when you’re extra exhausted and just want to nap or you’re just not feeling frisky, there are lazy sex positions that will allow you to get the maximum bang (no pun intended) for your (very little) effort. Being tired or just not very horny definitely doesn’t mean you won’t change your mind about wanting to get some action if your partner (or you) puts on the right moves. And, as you’ll learn here, those moves don’t have to take much energy—or even much motion, in some cases.
I asked sex therapist Marissa Nelson, LMFT, about how to max-out the feel good factor in a variety of low-effort sex moves. Below, she gives her best tips for getting off during sleepy midnight delights or lazy Sunday mornings. (You’re welcome.)
“Spoons feels amazing for heterosexual couples because the angle and position actually squeeze the penis and make it tight with each thrust,” explains Nelson. “It works great for [two vagina owners], too, since the big spoon partner can reach around and finger the little spoon.” *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
2. Inverted Missionary
“In this one, the bottom can thrust their hips upward to assist in pleasuring their partner,” says Nelson. “It’s a great one for intimacy, since the partners can look into each other’s eyes, hold hands, and let hands and fingers wander all over each other’s bodies.”
“If it’s midnight nookie and you’re only half-awake, this position is great, since you can lay on your side sitting up on your elbow, or just lying flat,” says Nelson. “For maximum enjoyment, grind your pelvis in a circular motion to increase orgasmic potential.” *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
4. Launch Pad
“This position is one of the best for deep penetration and G-spot stimulation,” says Nelson. “With your feet flat against your partner’s chest, you can control the depth of the thrust or tickle [their] balls. Place a pillow or wedge for back support and superior positioning to aid in stimulation and orgasm.”
5. Rear Entry
“This modified doggy-style is one of the best for G-spot stimulation, and for those times when you’re feeling lazy. Open legs will give you deep penetration, and closed legs close will be ideal for G-spotting. Plus, your partner has a great view to smack you on the butt or for anal and vaginal fingering,” says Nelson. *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
6. Deck Chair
“To make this position feel amazing for both partners, with every thrust, the top partner should squeeze and release the penis or toy with [their] vagina through a kegel,” says Nelson. “The sensation of tightening will drive [penis owners] crazy, and the squeezing and thrusting will help you on your way to orgasm.” *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
7. Poles Apart
“[Vagina owners] will enjoy this head-to-foot position where your bodies are smushed together and one partner can finger the other,” says Nelson. “For [cis-gendered] straight couples, the penis is at an unusual angle, so you can try holding open your butt cheeks to help him better slide in,” says Nelson. *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
“Classic missionary is one of the best positions for intimacy and connecting with your partner. It feels good for both people and is great for kissing, butt-grabbing and sucking on nipples during intercourse.” *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
A version of this article was originally published in February 2017.