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Feng Shui—the ancient art and science of balancing energies in any given space—was developed in China thousands of years ago as a way to assure health and good fortune. But, did you know that the way you organize and design a room or home can affect your career, knowledge and even your sex life?
“One way to balance the sexual energy we hold in our bodies is by creating an environment that touches on all the senses, specifically in the bedroom,” says Nidhi Huba, a Yogi, healer and founder of spiritual design company, Aumhome.
And, when you concentrate on bringing balance and harmony into the bedroom it will spill over into your love and sex life bringing happiness and passion with it, says lifestyle expert, Ellen Whitehurst. “Conversely, clutter in the living space but specifically in the bedroom will be reflected in all of your relationships most especially the one that you have with your significant other,” she says.
Here, the experts give us five easy ways you can trigger positive “love” energy in your bedroom, stat
Choose the right colors.
Pinks and reds are the universal colors for love and sex, so to steam up your sex life, accenting a space with the color red is the way to go, but to promote loving feelings, pinks are suggested. This doesn’t mean painting the walls red and using pink sheets and curtains, but rather adding small decor accents—a vase of saturated flowers, a rug that incorporates the shades, a stack of books with red or pink spines.
Not sure where to place these colored items? “You can use a Bagua map to locate where specific love and relationship energy is needed based on the layout of your bedroom,” suggests Huba.
Pay attention to scents.
The way your personal space smells can have a big impact on whether you’ll be sleeping alone. The olfactory response, or our sense of smell, is a powerful aphrodisiac, says Huba. “For some libido-inducing scents try Jasmine, the night-blooming flower. Hindu tantric practitioners use this essential oil as it’s known to induce feelings of love and sexual desire,” she says.
Whitehurst also suggests Ylang Ylang—candles or oil—as the scent is also known to increase sex drive in men and women. Other sexy scents include rose and orange-based scents to help boost mood and energy.
Focus on small details.
Soft sheets, silk garments and luxurious rugs—basically anything that’s pleasing to touch—are essential for the bedroom. And, always think of ‘a pair’ in the bedroom, says Whitehurst. “No more than one pillow per person who sleeps in the bed, and if you’re single, have two pillows anyway. The idea of placing things in pairs also goes for night tables, lamps, candles, and other accents.
Choose wall decor wisely.
This means no pictures of your parents, your friends, or your kids in the bedroom, as you wouldn’t want them watching you getting intimate. Instead opt for soothing abstract paintings or photos that don’t feature people you know, And, absolutely no TV’s mounted on the wall. “Television is bad for sexual Feng Shui as it emits EMF (electromagnetic field) energy, but worse, it psychologically turns people off from sex,” says Whitehurst. Even science shows that having a television in the bedroom can cut a couples sex life nearly in half.
Separate work and sleeping spaces.
Those confined to studio apartments have a hard time separating their work space from the area in which we unwind, so experts suggest making it a point to cordon off your computer area by using a shoji screen or a beaded curtain. “Keep all the work and office stuff in one space and keep it out of sight from the rest of the room,” says Huba.
The same goes for workout equipment, says Whitehurst. “Bikes, treadmills and elliptical machines: keep them out of sight as they say, “I’m moving and moving and getting nowhere.”
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Feng Shui, which is the ancient art and science of balancing energies in any given space, was developed in China thousands of years ago as a way to assure health and good fortune. But, did you know that the way you organize a room or home can affect your career, knowledge and even relationships?
Now that we know the power that this ancient Chinese art holds, how about Feng Shui to ensure a better sex life? One way to balance our ‘sex chakra’ or the sexual energy we hold in our bodies, is by creating an environment that touches on all the senses, specifically in the bedroom, says Nidhi Huba, a Yogi, healer and founder of spiritual design company, Aumhome.
Here are five easy ways you can trigger positive “love” energy in your bedroom, stat.
Choose the right color for your purpose
To steam up your sex life, accenting a space with the color red is the way to go, but to promote loving feelings, greens and pinks are suggested (the former is the color that indicates the heart’s center and prosperity. Pink also represents the heart and divine love, says Nidhi.) You can use a Bagua map to locate where specific love and relationship energy is needed based on the layout of your bedroom. This may help you figure out where you hang a piece of red artwork or pink curtains.
The right scent can go a long way.
The way your bedroom smells can have a big impact on whether you’ll be sleeping alone. The olfactory response, or our sense of smell, is a powerful aphrodisiac. For some libido-inducing scents try Jasmine, the night-blooming flower. Hindu tantric practitioners use the essential oil as it’s known to induce feelings of love and sexual desire, says Nidhi. Other sexy scents include rose, which can bring a loving bond to your sex sessions. Try orange-based scents to help boost mood and energy.
Use luxurious linens.
Another important decorating technique? The various textures in the bedroom. Nidhi suggests using soft sheets, silk garments and luxurious rugs—basically anything that’s pleasing to touch. Choose colored sheets and pillows that match the type of love you’re after. Place some red throw pillows to sex up your bed or a pink throw to welcome more romance.
Candles can get sparks flying
Author and lifestyle expert Ellen Whitehurst says that placing a pair of pink candles in the back right-hand corner of your bedroom can add both a spark and a glow to your love life.
Sex and work don’t mix
Work and play don’t mix in the bedroom, but if you have no choice but to keep technology where you sleep, cordon off your workspace by using a screen or a beaded curtain. Try not to keep a desk or any work-related items clearly visible.
Make physical room for a partner
It might sound new-agey, but if you’re single and looking, you should literally create a space for a potential partner by emptying a dresser drawer or make room in your closet. Clean out the bathroom so when your soulmate does appear there’s plenty of room for them to fit right in, says Whitehurst. The idea of creating a place for two is critical in the bedroom. Also, think ‘two’ while decorating, a well: There should be two bedside tables and two lamps on top.