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Slow, lazy sex on a rainy Sunday morning or tried-and-true sex positions that get the job done are necessary for a satisfying sex life, IMHO. They’re efficient, fun, and—hey, I’ll say it—easy. And yet, don’t you ever have those moments—even if they’re few and far between—when you just want to try some crazy sex positions? Where instead running through your usual angles, you want something a little… different? Sure, the sex positions you always use might be a little easer—at least, easier than contorting yourself into a position that looks like it belongs in an advanced-level yoga class and trying to sync up with your partner so you can both get pleasure during the (complicated) deed. But it’s worth it to switch up once in a while. (And it doesn’t have to be that difficult.)
I’ll be real: For me, it happened recently when I was watching an epic Game of Thrones sex scene. I felt like I was the most boring sexual being on the face of the earth—at least compared to these wild characters. Their sex was hot, exciting and something I’d never really seen. But despite being turned on, I wasn’t quite sure how to translate that motivation to try something new between the sheets with my fiancé. After all, most people I know don’t have mental encyclopedias of sex positions—especially new ones—they can whip out and execute on command.
So, instead of having to come up with spontaneous, sex-master-level sex positions—or literally just memorize a bunch of out-of-the-box ideas—yourself, we came up with a list of eight crazy sex positions that are 100 percent worth the attempt. Yes, they’ll take some extra physical effort, but the challenge looks not only fun, but could be so worth it if you discover that it takes you to a whole new pleasure level. We also got some pointers from pro sexologist Emily Morse, Ph.D., host of the “Sex With Emily” podcast, because these positions are definitely tricky, and we don’t want anyone injuring themselves too badly in the name of getting off.
“This is a fun version of 69 best built for someone who is very flexible and likely logged many hours on [their] yoga mat. Place a pillow under the head of the person who is upside down for comfort and have the other partner sit on a pillow, tilting their pelvis as far forward as possible,” says Morse. “The person sitting up straight has full access to all parts of the vulva, vagina, and butt, while the person standing on [their] head has great access to the other’s clitoris. Plus, the extra blood rushing to the head makes for a crazy orgasm.” *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
2. Little Dipper
Whoever’s on top is getting an arm work out with this one. The partner on top uses a couch, bed or chair to move themselves up and down on top of the bottom partner’s penis, sex toy, or strap-on. The bottom partner can also use their hands to manually stimulate the top partner—or to help them move up and down when those arms get tired. *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
“This position is great for two [vagina-owners] because it makes for efficient coital alignment to maximize pleasure,” says Morse. “The sockets position allows the labias and clitori to stimulate each other, otherwise known as tribbing. The person on [their] back can move up and down while the person on [their] side can move side to side.”
“This position is similar to reverse cowgirl, but with the receiver laying all the way forward with the legs extended all the way back,” says Morse. “[If they have a vagina,] a small clitoral vibe can be used by the receiver to stimulate themselves. The receiver can also stimulate their partner’s perineum [if they have a penis] with their hands or with a vibrating penis ring—I like the We-Vibe Verge—designed to pleasure the perineum that will also stimulate the clitoris in this position.” *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
“Similar to the socket position, both [vagina-owners] are on their sides facing each other, but laying opposite directions. This is probably the most comfortable and easiest way to trib because both partners have stability and are as close as possible,” says Morse. “Be sure to add a water-based lube, like System JO’s H20, because grinding can cause friction, reducing wetness.”
6. Bumper Cars
With both partners lying face-down, one should position their pelvis and legs on top of the other’s. For couples involving one or two penis-owners, a person with a penis should be on top. For couples involving no penises, you can use a strap-on or other toy to thrust and achieve penetration. (Or, two vagina-owners can use individual vibrators to masturbate one another simultaneously.) Just be careful, as again, this can put a penis at a bit of an unnatural angle—though the friction can feel amazing. *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
7. Golden Gate
This is the most challenging version of 69 you’ll probably find. The visuals make it pretty self-explanatory, but it requires major upper arm and back strength on the part of the top partner. With two vagina-owners, the top partner would need to be especially flexible. *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
8. Reverse Pile Driver
Top partners can comfortably thrust and control the pace of the action in this position, but need to be mindful of bottom partners who are contorted into a super-stretch. That said, the angle can be ideal for G-spot stimulation in vagina-owners, so give it a go if you’re up for it. *This sex position works for all gender pairings!
A version of this article was originally published in September 2017.