As online dating becomes more and more prevalent in our technology driven society, there are a few things to heed caution to/look for while in the process of finding your potential future boyfriend.
The first thing to consider is which dating resource to use. As we’ve all seen in the online dating commercials, eharmony.com and chemistry.com tend to attract an older crowd (you know, the one where Randy, who never thought he’d find someone at his age, had his dream turned into a reality all thanks to eharmony.com).
For those of you who are young, single, and lookin’ to mingle…. Match.com is your destination! This site is mainly made up of young people who simply don’t have the time to search outside their network of friends for a significant other. Or, if you’ve lived in the city for a while, you are tired of the drunk bar scene (which, in all honesty, doesn’t lead to anything beyond exchanging digits).
If you’re of the Jewish faith, Jdate.com is a good fit, as it includes mostly people from the Jewish community. This site also tends to be full of people in their 20s, early 30s. Already, you will have a lot in common with your peers and without trying, something to talk about.
When money IS an object, check out free dating sites such as okcupid.com. Or better yet, trusty old craigslist.com can be of service to you (yet again). Another option is to test the free trial periods on all the above sites. You may not be able to send winks (for those shy folks) or messages, but you 100 percent able to peruse people’s profiles and see out what’s out there.
If you are new to this scene, read on for some tips to make the process smoother and to maximize your chances of finding prince charming. Just make sure to know what you are looking to get out of this…. is it a male friend? a hook up buddy? a boyfriend? a future husband?
Creating a profile:
When creating your profile, take the time to include interests and hobbies that are most important to you, but don’t present a laundry list of them. Disclosing too much information is not only a turn-off, but will provide you with less material to talk about on your actual date. Including what you like to do on the weekends, your favorite vacation places, or your favorite TV shows/movies are is fine. Avoid spilling your life story.
What to look for in his profile:
When searching other people’s profiles, make sure to fully read through the profiles that interest you, versus basing everything solely on the photos (as we all know, looks can be deceiving!). Selecting your match based on his photo is the primary step, but look deeper into it. Who knows, maybe you discovered through reading his profile that you two share an awesomely nerdy passion of collecting comic books.
What to watch out for:
Some things to be cautious about include believing all photos posted are up-to-date. Don’t be fooled by guys who haven’t changed their photos in 10 years. Additionally, if you are looking for a serious relationship, pick up on subtle hints they aren’t looking for anything more than a hookup (i.e. I’m looking for someone to have fun with). On the flip side, be aware of the over eager beavers, who seem desperate on chat.
Don’t fake chemistry:
A perk of online dating websites includes being able to filter who you keep in contact with. If you don’t feel you have enough in common or a connection, don’t feel pressured to continue talking, just for the sake of being polite. Don’t, however, feel rejected or discouraged if someone you took interest in stops talking to you. Timing is everything, and who knows what girl wrote him an e-mail just before you did, or had a date the day before you starting chatting him up.
Remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea, so happy fishing!
Let us know what tips you’ve picked up from your own experiences!
Ive been on a lot of these online websites. I met my current boyfriend on Craigslist. I will not use Craigslist for dating again! Craigslist is filled with so many sexual predators and down low(undercover gay or bisexual) men. I saw the same thing on MySpace. I wish there was a website for MATURE younger people who are serious about dating.
Next time, try something like eharmony.com.
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yes, eharmony can give you good quality men, but there is no assurance the relationship will work. i found a boyfriend in eharmony, it just did not workout because of priorities which are very important factors.
Online dating is worse than the proverbal Blind date!! At least with the Blind date, you can get a feel for things in an instant. Your not wasting precious time talking a monitor for weeks , And who knows , The time you’ve wasted talking , You could have meet someone, You just might have had a spark with. Yep , An other one gone .
On-line dating just increases the number of people you meet. Women can be pickier, waste three dates of a man’s money and reject even more. Men can sleep with even more women, dump them, and find replacements quickly.
I met a lot of women on-line, and many lie about their age, past marital status, smoking and drinking habits. So many 29 yrs old
I’m moving to s. Cali next month so I’ve been checking out some of the guys on match.com. I was amazed to see a few that had listed themselves as 30 something but look like they’re pushing 50! One guy actually confessed that he’s 48 NOT 38! He apparently wanted to attract the young chicks who don’t browse the over 40 crowd. Looser!
Try this dating site, http://www.pof.com it’s free, so it’s a very good place to meet guys, from all kinds, anyway, it’s worth the try. I had already tried other pay sites, but guys don’t always even read their emails because they are not paying the fee, so, less opportunities.
YES! Plenty of Fish is great!! (www.pof.com)
You didn’t mention plentyoffish.com which is a free dating site.
One other thing everyone should be aware of is the money scammers! I have talked to a few prople on these online dating sites and come to find out they are in Nigeria! They say they are working over there but then they have “trouble” getting home and want you to send them money! DO NOT AGREE TO ANY OF IT no matter what he or she says.
You need to be very careful with internet dating. Alot of the men, women on there are married looking for a good time. They really are not looking for a long term relationship. But there are alot of single people out there that don’t care if the person is married and they end up getting what they deserve.
what about sugardaddie? a lot of girls are going for it, but maybe there are guys out there pretending they are rich just to go out with an atractive woman?
Scammers are very smart and get you hooked fast. They work at brainwashing you and do this like we do our normal job. Before you know it your hooked. Go to romancescams.com and educate yourself. Advice to anyone male/felmale who does internet dating. Learn the red flags. Happy fishing to all for the perfect one.
I tried several online sites and meet some good and bad guys, but that the fun of it, just be patience and continue to weed out the bad seed, it’s like going to JC Penney, keep pulling another number . Learn to communicate and ask a lot of question up front, always meet at a nuetral ground. I am a widow, just enjoying learning the new dating era.
Keep your standard high, don’t let people tell you you must settle. If you do, that’s which you settle for will be the thing that vex you the most. Stay open minded, this is dating, it not guarantee, and no refunds. Listen more. Remember this is cyberspace, anything goes, but you can meet him/her at Walmart, and it can be a nightmare. Be patience.
I tried several on-line dating cites and I found the Cupid .com more safe, except AfroIntroduction.com where you get many of these girls resident in Ghana but with Europe addresses and fony names. Once you hook up with them, they start asking for money to buy phone, internet facilities if you want them remained connected with you. Can we men win?
I dont know if you guys know about this site but DateandRate.com is a great new FREE dating site as well and it looks alot better than all of the sites mentioned above.
Yes, I found a boy friend in eharmony, it didn’t workout too.
I found a great guy on eHarmony, but we ended up being SO much alike, that we bored each other. It was like dating my brother! There is something to be said for “opposites attract”.
Sexual predators can be found anywhere – online, as well as anywhere in “real life”. I’ve met plenty of weird guys at local restaurants, bars and coffeeshops too… But I met my fiance thru Craigslist three years ago and we are very happy. I think you just have to be open to meeting people using various tactics but always stay alert and aware.
e-harmony promised the world & gave nothing. I made my ages rather broad. 1 and only 1 man was sent to me as a “match” in an entire year, and he was floating around their site trying to find someone to have sex with, nothing more. This is the list of “older members”???? It’s a scam.
i am on single.com and i talk to this guy, he only talk on monday throu friday. i know he is talking to me only when he at work. so funny, i am very very careful with this guy.
My husband met some pycho girl on Craigslist and she is now trying to get him to get custody of our child. Isn’t enough she stole my husband now she just wants my life. Yes, I filed for divorce. Craigslist is really sleezy. At least on Match you can report them if they are married.
The biggest mistake one makes on dating site is to focus on ‘the one’. Try to think of it more as a place to make friends and chat. The ones who comes off as sleazy are those who hide the ‘big secret’ of why they are dating online in the first place: of going straight to the sack. Friends first – every other good thing is a bonus
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