It’s almost 2018 and definitely (past) time to close the pleasure gap. If you’re unfamiliar with the concept, it stems from the fact that men are twice as likely to have an orgasm during sex than women. Not only that, but people with vaginas are far less likely to have a satisfying sexual experience when penises are involved. If this works for you and your partner, more power to you, but if not, know that there’s more to good sex than a few pumps and a sigh.
Thankfully, we’re moving past the point where penis-in-vagina sex is seen as the ultimate act—which concludes when the person with the penis orgasms—and embracing a much broader concept of pleasure. We’re done with being passive sexual participants and want the same for our loved ones.
Here are some gift ideas for products that will help close the pleasure gap—whether that’s helping them take their orgasms into their own hands, working with a disability, or ensuring that both partners enjoy themselves.
A version of this article originally appeared on SheKnows.com
Desire Orgasm Balm
From nips to clits, this will get you tingly all over.
Desire Orgasm Balm, $24.99 at Lovehoney.com
Broad City Mind My Vagina water-based lubricant
Because sometimes a little lube can go a long way to making sex more pleasurable.
Broad City Mind My Vagina Water-Based Lubricant, $12.99 at Lovehoney.com
Vibrator gripping aid
People with disabilities deserve a fulfilling sex life too. This aid can help those who need some help holding a vibrator.
Vibrator gripping aid, $64.61 at Spokz
Use this product alone or as a couple to help ensure all parties involved get something out of the experience.
Eva II, $135 at Dame
Desire luxury USB rechargeable bullet vibrator
Sometimes good things come in small packages.
Desire luxury USB rechargeable bullet vibrator, $64.99 at Lovehoney.com
Le Wand rechargeable massager
Everyone appreciates a good massage.
Le Wand gray rechargeable massager, $170 at Le Wand
B-Vibe novice plug
B-Vibe novice plug in fuschia, $130 at B-Vibe
Another option for people with disabilities.
Sex-aid sling, $404 at Spokz
Your sexual pleasure bible.
Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters — And How to Get It, $26.99 at HarperCollins