The Most Important Trait Of Successful Daters

Carly Spindel

Dating may have its ups and downs, but it’s important to remember why you’re out there in the first place. You want to be spending time with someone who will give you want you want. Because after all, there’s no use going after something that’s not right for you. You deserve only the best. So what’s the most important thing to remember while you’re out there sharing meals and drinks with new guys every week in the search for love? Stay true to yourself. If you’re not exactly sure what that means or how to do it read on.

True Lies
If you want to date a tall, dark, and handsome mysterious guy, no one can stop you. If you want a guy with a motorcycle or an elementary school teacher (or one who’s both) you know what you’re attracted to and who will be good for you in the end. Don’t fight it. Trying to convince yourself that the perfect person on paper is right for you when that’s not who you’re innately attracted to will only lead you down the wrong path in the end.

Don’t Settle
Don’t put too much effort into a guy if you know in the end he’s not going to make you happy. Remember to see the forest, not the trees, my friends. Be true to yourself and who you want to date. If you want a boyfriend but you’re hanging with a guy who can’t commit, don’t go out with him again. It’s a waste of your time and his.

No Changes
Not only men love challenges. Ladies, if you meet a guy who says he doesn’t want a girlfriend, listen to him. Don’t make him into your pet project. Go after someone who wants to be your boyfriend, not a guy who clearly just told you he does not.

The “It” Factor
When you realize you’re fabulous, other people will too. When you appreciate yourself, other people will appreciate you. Dating is only fun if you realize how great you are. Don’t forget that you’re a catch and you should be with a guy who is charming after you.

Turn On The Act
When some women meet a man they like, they turn into the girl of his dreams. This isn’t healthy. Instead of turning into an actress, you should be with the man of your dreams. Besides, regardless of how good your acting skills are, your true self will come out eventually. So remember that honesty is the best policy and you deserve to be with any man you want.

Carly Spindel is a writer and hopeless romantic. She is a world traveler who has lived in Paris and London. She resides in New York and is always on the go. She can usually be found at her favorite caf enjoying chocolate mousse while people watching, which is one of her favorite hobbies. Carly spends the rest of her time focusing on her five dearest past times: traveling, learning about different cultures, shopping, reading, and of course looking for Mr. Right.

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