Dating Advice: Is Sexting Sexy?

Sexting, a modern way of flirting via technology, has become increasingly popular among teens and young adults. The urban dictionary defines sexting as “When a guy and a girl send dirty text messages back and forth to each other. Pictures may also be included, but only if you’re lucky…”

The question is: Who exactly is sexting? And, is it sexy?

Because we can all use a little help, we broke down exactly when it is fun and flirty to send a sext and when you should put down your phone.

You are in a relationship:

If you are in a long-term relationship, meaning at least over six months to a year, then you are most likely sending sexual messages to each other, otherwise it might be time to call it quits and move on. You and your guy are hot for each other and that’s cool…just not when it’s made public. So keep it under wraps.

You just started dating:

If you’re in the early stages of dating and nothing is definable then use your own discretion. It’s pretty simple; you don’t know each other very well yet and he or she could have a big mouth. If you are a free spirit and a big flirt, go for it. It is exciting and fun to see that someone is thinking about you when you don’t expect it. If you aren’t as comfortable putting yourself out there, skip it. You don’t want to come across forced when there is no reason to.

It’s past 2 am:

Obviously, there are times when we all slip up…like those nights when you’re out with your friends and have had one too many shots (you know how the rest goes). Don’t, we repeat, DON’T send a sext message to your crush begging them to come hither. It might seem like a good idea at the time, it’s not cool! You’ll either come off as a slutty or desperate…and face it, no one want to be thought of like that.

You love photo messages:

Nude pics? NO, this is probably the worst thing a girl can do (even when in a relationship). Just save yourself the grief and take our advice, never send nude photos. Imagine the worst case scenario (your naked body all over the internet, for one) and work backwards from there.

To sum up sexting–it’s basically not sexy, unless A) you’re in a long-term relationship, B) an extrovert, or C) all of the above. So, make sure to think before you sext! Also, always remember that these messages could always get out there. Don’t sext something you’d be embarrassed to explain later.

  • dimples

    omg!!! this is so new for me..
    something i will not do.. lol =)

  • Liz

    my boyfriend and I sext all the time. I love it and I also love acting out what we sext about. The main reason we do it is. He lives in Seattle and I live in NC temporarily. So sext is great for us.

  • stac

    this is something that i’ve done and i’m 33yrs old and the bad thing is the guy is 42 yrs old and taken but hta didn;t stop ether of us from doing this something that some of us have never done before but it happens…..

  • veelalynne

    I think it’s childish and irresponsible. There. I said it.

  • Karen

    Sexting Rocks! Nothing like opening up your phone only to realize you got a hot message! It also gives you something to think about! The longer you do it the more creative you get! And if you do wanna send nude pics just make sure your face isnt in them. Unless you got the confidence of a Rock Star from that money shot! Make your next text a sext!

  • Cindy

    Ummm NO – for me it is a sure turn off.

  • mark

    may I ask how the LDR works for you? i have the same situation and it kills me to be a part..and we are engaged..Hoq do you make it work?

  • laurie

    I am a 50 year old woman…I love sexting my man occassionally…it thrills him, makes him feel like a young man again, and reminds him that his old lady is still HOT! It keeps him in love with me. A few words go a long way!

  • lynne

    mind you some people find that as a very good thing

  • lynn

    wow that is so cool i wonder if i’ll make it work like that

  • lynn

    i do not blame you girl im on your side

  • Mathew Hu-Smith

    Even the word “Sexting” itself is sexy and just plain smooth.

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