The rules of wedding attire are so confusing—and with every invite we receive, we find ourselves second guessing whether or not it’s appropriate to wear a black dress to a wedding. Despite what we may have heard from our grandmothers, we’re here to settle the debate once and for all: Yes, we can wear that gorgeous black dress to the next ceremony we go to—we’re giving ourselves (and you) full permission to stop questioning it.
So, why was it ever unacceptable that such a versatile, chic, and—let’s be real—slimming color be worn to weddings? Back in the old days, if a guest wore black to nuptials, it was considered a passive-aggressive protest to the marriage about to take place. Obviously, things have evolved massively, with black emerging as women’s go-to dress shade, both as a guest and, often, as a bridesmaid. As with all colors, appropriateness has more to do with the actual cut, fit, and material of the dress, as opposed to its color (white not withstanding, of course).
“When you’re a guest at a wedding, the most important thing to keep in mind is not to upstage or upset the bride. Stay away from whites, creams and ivories. For the love of God, do not wear flowers in your hair,” said Molly Guy, the founder and creative director of hip New York-based bridal boutique Stone Fox Bride. When asked what guests can wear, Guy was quick to highlight—you guessed it—black.
“The goal [of a wedding guest] is to look sleek and appropriate, not over-the-top or high-drama. Black is always a safe option. It’s good for cocktail attire, black tie or even a mid-afternoon garden soirée. Black reads festive and fancy, without an outward cry to ‘have all eyes on me.’ Plus, there’s no chance anyone will mistake you for the lady saying her vows. A simple black slip dress or chic jumpsuit can be dressed up or down depending on your choice of shoes, earrings and clutch.”
So, think of it this way: black isn’t acceptable for a wedding if the dress is skin-tight, insanely short, wildly low-cut, or appropriate for a night out in Vegas. But then again, neither is any other color.
Originally published November 2014. Updated March 2017.