Breaking Up is Hard to Do… Literally!

It looks like that old saying “love hurts” may actually have some scientific legs to stand on. Ladies, you may want to hold on to your men as long as you can, because apparently the heartache that comes with breaking up can be detrimental to your health, causing actual physical pain. According to a new study published yesterday in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, the experience of social rejection akin to a romantic breakup activates the same parts of the brain that are also triggered during physical pain. Bonnie Levin, a professor at the University of Miami adds, “Just as some of us are better able to tolerate pain, some of us are more vulnerable to experiencing rejection.”

If you’ve ever dealt with your own breakup or had to drag a friend out of bed who’s suffering from a breakup, then you know how debilitating it can be to lose a significant other. It’s easy to say, “it’s time to get over it,” but now we know that that’s like asking someone to get over a physical injury before it has healed. So, what does this mean for you? Maybe you’ll be shown a little more sympathy post breakup, or if you’re the heartbreaking type maybe you’ll be a little more sympathetic the next time you think about ditching your beau.

No matter how you react to physical or emotional pain which apparently are one in the same it’s important that you address the feelings, no matter how hard it may be. It’s easy to convince yourself you’re over someone or that that sprained ankle doesn’t really hurt as much as you’re letting on, but “people make a lot of conclusions that physical pain is too much to manage. They believe the best way to deal with it is to lie down and shut out the world,” said Simon Rego, director of psychology training at Montefiore Medical Center. We’ve all been there, but “shutting down” could just lead to more pain in the future. Instead, listen to Edward Smith, a cognitive neuroscientist at Columbia University, who advises, “when thinking about rejection, view experiences with an ex-partner as an outside person from a distance.”

So, face your pain and emotions when they happen, and try your best to step outside of the situation. You don’t want to become one of those people who are still unwittingly holding a torch for some asshole ex five or ten years down the road, do you?

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  • Asraa

    tHIS SUBJECT IS VERY COMPLICATED BECAUSE IT DOES SAY THAT COUPLE WHO BREAK UP SUFFER FROM PHYSICAL EMOTIONS AND ITS VERY TRUE .Now, what I don’t believe its true that people who are involved in this relation ,must experiened all ups-down through our daily life. Then, why this feeling of (I need to break up and live alone)
    I guess deep inside there was a voice of let it go ,maybe small things but covered through the warm and cold nights ,can make things work out for that time ,but it doesn’t mean disapeared. Well, certain circumstances has the effect to gathered this couple
    or seperate them . People around could also,add to the relationship and one of the reasons to continue ,afraot going to find better choice or full in love again play major part to cover any uncomfort or even real matters
    that must be addressed.Usaully, its the nature of humans and their background ,saying a lot about us.
    Rejection , strong word for people to handle ,only women who are not in pain can say the truth and move on.
    If she has deep relation like, physical emotions won’t be heal until she will involved in new physical emotions . On the other hand, activate time by working on something must have positive reflects and help a lot.
    If she has regret about someone in the past ,thats normal she must learned how to be happy and never be with someone bad or worst than this word.Unreliable ,mean ,pretending ,untrust worthy,and many things . Women could pass such feeling of regret if she wasn’t involved in any physical emotions ,thats bless otherwise , she couldn’t go back to her beautiful nature as a feminine and that means she can enjoy life with someone else. If a woman has low selfsteem or not confident,then it will reflects immiediatly on our significant and thats bad. If he has past and not happy with new change ,his new should leave and never accept to be in the wrong place, wrong time plus she should look to herself with great respect as a result won’t accept to be unhappy or in such position.Finally, some don’t try different men or dating never end because she won’t be available for anyone !!!! For some its a joke or upnormal ,for others its very nice to have something true (open mind and heart)better than empty time with empty feelings.

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