After reading What Type of Girlfriend Are You, I decided that some self-help relationship books, or guides, if you will, might be desperately needed (like ASAP). Agreed?
With that said, here are some remedies in book form that might help you change your relationship and life for the better. Plus, it’s crunch time (must have boyfriend before the holiday season)! These books cover it all, from finding a guy, what to do with him once you find him, and even getting over a break up…
1. Why Him? Why Her? By Helen Fisher, $16.50, at amazon.com – The book offers a chemical/biological basis for four basic personality types and advice on how the four relate romantically.
2. He’s Just Not That Into You! by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, $14.95, at amazon.com - A fun, easy to read, yet sometimes a tad harsh book geared towards heterosexual women in need of a kick in the pants to get them on the right dating track. It is written by two former Sex and the City staffers (a consultant and story editor) and you know you can trust them.
3. Guide to Getting It On by Paul Joannides, $4.89, at amazon.com - This is one of the best sex books on the market. It is clear, accurate, funny, and above all helpful, telling what you never dared to ask about sex, in full detail. A Guide to Getting It On is an excellent read for anyone of any age wanting to be truly informed about sex.
4. Women’s Pleasure by Rachel Swift, $14.95, at barnes&noble.com. Women ask how to have an orgasm, men ask how to give them – and everyone wants to know how to get more of them. Women’s Pleasure is the best book on the subject: a step-by-step guide to how to make yourself more orgasmic.
5. It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt, $5.25, at amazon.com – The Smart Girl’s Break-Up Buddy by Greg Behrendt. There’s no doubt about it– breakups suck. In the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there’s one important truth you need to recognize: Some things can’t and shouldn’t be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It’s called a breakup because it’s broken, and starting right here, right now, it’s time to dry your tears, put down that pint of ice cream, log out of his e-mail, open this book to Chapter One– and start turning your breakup into a breakover.
What if he or she has made up his/her mind not to make up with you.or has found another lover who she thinks that can provide her finanial needs?Thanks 4 ur adviceok
I have a friend that his gal claimes to be holy but a cheat regardless of what the guy does for her both in kind $ othewise. my question are thus:
1.Does it mean that the gal is a nimpho
2.Does it mean that she is jealous and greed
I am trying to get over a relationship that lasted 26 years we have a 22 year old son that was planned.It has been a very hard relationship for both but neither one of us wanted to let go.He went back to his wife on 9-19-09.He calls me all the time but now I have not headed form him in 1 week.I have call 2xs but only got service.I am devastated.
i think i like to read it… i do agree that it is called a brek-up coz’ its broken…= )
#6 Steve Harvey’s Act Like A Lady and Think Like A Man – As usual, Steve is keeping it real!
I have or had a girlfriend who I would not have believed in a thousand years was using me. I thought we were very much in love. I was the happiest I had ever been. We had all sorts of plans and dreams which we were working toward. Now she has gotten money from me for school/living home improvement $40Gs and now will not communicate. I’m a sucker
Ed! Are you kidding!? I’m so sorry. It’s her loss not yours. She lost a priceless diamond. It’s obvious that she didn’t love you, she used you! Not all men love and plan ahead like you Ed. Move on and get yourself another lady who would deserve you!
I haven’t read this book yet, did read the *He’s Not That Into You * one though, have some catching up to do. I keep loosing the guys I like to hootchies or beauty queen/glamazon types, time to find a different kind of man, I think…
Nancy I’m sorry to hear this. It seems like he never let go of his previous wife. Never get involved with men that have girlfriends or wives. They will never leave the woman for you, they like to have their cake and eat it too! I’m sure he does this regularly and he has more women besides his wife. Let this loser go!!!
Another Great book: Why Men Love Bitches.
Get an attorney (b4) you move on and get your funds back!
Most def. And GET THE BOOK(s) honey. They are a godsend.
after i read that paragraph about man eaters i realized i really am one but is that a good thing or bad do think i should change that but i just dont want a guy to think he can just walk all over me like a footmat is that wrong to think ? and im going to get that book why do men love bitches
I have a book to add-it’s available through lulu.com but not yet in bookstores called “REALationships”. It takes a very basic approach that gets rid of the things that start a relationship off in the wrong direction-making a better future more likely and it works for new or decade long relationships
then you should move on and find someone that has there own money and can provide for thereself an independent women and she must be a gold digger if shes leaving a great guy who loves her for a guy that can pay her bills and things like that
The best relationship advise- THAT REALLY WORKS!!!Why Men Love Bitches is sooooo great !!! Definatly the BEST relationship book ever!!!
Also a GREAT read is Why Men Marry Bitches!!!!!
I know quit a few hardcore players, they find the bitch a challenge so they pursue. This dynamic may seem like attraction to the woman, but once they catch her they lose interest.
The guys who are genuine my be turned off by the bitch. That said, by all means stand up for yourself, from a place of love. Love for yourself and compassion for others.
Unfortunately there is not much he can do unless it was in writing, because it’s considered a “gift”… you don’t watch Judge Judy that much do you? He’ll be lucky if he gets anything back and that SUCKS. Wish I could find my own “Ed”, my BF now makes me buy my own stuff & I can never afford it. He treats me to nothing & yet i still love him… ??
Thought there might be some valid things,re:life/relationships within sone of these pages.I haven’t looked deep,but there must be something to behove me(or you).I’m gonna look a lil’ deeper and let ya know what I find.kosh?
i dont get it… was it an affair that lasted that long? Or was it a a marraige.
I LOVE “It’s Called a Break Up Because It’s Broken”. It’s truly one of the best break up books every. If you read it and don’t say at least once “Oh my God I’ve done that” you’re lying to yourself. I recommend it to every woman I know.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I feel as if I’m reading posts from kids in the third grade when I read these posts. Let’s grow up and spell. Maybe then we can have better relationships.
Be very careful you don’t end up married to him…I thought it was no big deal to pay for everything — I was contributing to the benefit of our family…now I have a young child and no savings. I anguish over every penny because the more I spend, the more I have to work and the less time I can spend with my child who is growing up so fast…
i am 32yrs,but in love with a 16yrs old girl.i expressed my feelings for her “i miss you like the sun misses the flower”.she reply till then when i am 19.what should i do to secure or protect this friendship?
You should get an attorney because you’re on your way to jail. Go see a professional who can help you see why you are doing this. It is not ok.
Too funny! I stumbled on this site by accident, and thus far I’ve been in “editor” mode proofreading all the posts. Maybe some posts written at a sensitive time, but please type legibly; this is not text messaging.
the best book on relationships should have in its title “no compromise, zero tolerance, but some sacrifice a must.”
Every relationship I had where compromise and tolerance were allowed to creep in and establish their evil agendas…the end of the road was soon reached and the cliff followed.
Just love loving, not owning. Love is now, here, us.
Monica you need to email me…I would like to help you achieve some time freedom for your child. Build Dreams…..catch me on yahoo see ya there DeeJabo…Donna
I’m in a relationship of 11yrs. We have 3 children together. I feel like we’re growing apart. His friends is always #1 priority, he doesn’t spend time with the kids and I. He is never around. we been through this many times, nothing changed! I feel like giving up, very sadden and stress. Should I just let go???
Just got done reading Steve Harvey’s book. Kinda short but very informative.
There is no instruction guide to relationships. Every person is different and has different communication styles. The only thing that works for sure is direct and honest communication. If you feel you must “fix” something, you were given gut instincts for a reason. Listen to them and use your head.
A 32 yr old man in love with a 16 yr old girl?You are a pedophile and seriously need help because that is not normal.I have a 16 yr old daughter and if you were “expressing your feelings for her” and trying to “protect your friendship” you would already be in jail! No relationship advice book is going to help you!
A super relationship book that isn’t on this list, but should be…
Steve Harvey’s “Act like a Lady, Think like a Man”
Truthful, informative, honest..with a bit of comedy so as not to be stuffy or academic.
Try using the proper terms, I seriously doubt a 16 year old is pre-pubescent and is of the legal age of consent in many places, the UK for one. Historically this is not a big deal, and isn’t illegal even in the US unless there has been sexual contact. BTW, how old are you both?
It seems your husband gets something with his friends he doesnt think he can get in his family, but its up to you to think, to decide, what could make you and your kids happy, i know its not easy, but you say its happened many times, so a time to make decisions comes around, what could make you happier in the long term?
Could u please post me some part of these books.
This truly is the dating bible for a female. It isn’t about being a bitch so much that it is about the self esteem any woman should have to be in a healthy relationship. Bottom line if you treat yourself like you want to be treated by a man or anyone else , you will be happy. Feel like a door mat in your relationships? Read this book
I wish someone would write a “how-to” dating book for the single parent that doesn’t have a life because they spend all their time working so that they can provide for their children. Now THAT would come in handy right now.
all this books and we still be fool about the male.
I am / was in a relationship two kids and find out that he is messing around don’t know how long or how many people but he denied it even after I confronted him with text messages and e-mails – he confirmed one relationship then said his feelings for me haven’t changed and the girl he got pregnant is also his family – I am so low, so devastated
I second that
i have a guy who want to marry me but nave call me or ask of me i keep calling and mail what do u think i can do to this matter can i still go on with it
any hot chicks in here? How YOU dhooin’?..
Abby…I Agree, one of the BEST relationship books ever written!
if your not getting off. remember no matter how much women deny it they want sex just as bad if not more than men
monica b. you have a young child and its only going to get harder and harder make that fool pay child support. now stop worrying and get back out there u need to find a guy to treat u like a queen and give u the world that way u can give your kid the world. plus he/she needs a father figure in his/ her life my dad left at 2 and mom re married
to who i call my dad now and i love him he is one of the greatest men to live in my opinion. nobody should grow up without some sort of father figure and psychology tests show that quite an astonishing amount of serial killers and rapists grew up without a dad or completely hate thier dad
well every guy has sex on thier mind and so do alot of girls if u want a good relationship find someone u can talk to for hours about nothing and have fun doing it and find someone who will treat u right. someone u can talk to anything about and they will listen to your feelings and what u have to say before before they open thier mouth
oh and find someone who can control thier temper. there are stupid dicks out there that will hit women for voicing thier opinion we are in america where we are free nobody should have to be scared to open thier mouths to the person who is supposed to love them
because in a guys mind if a girl looks at him more than once and makes eye contact its a come talk to me there is some pickup advice
I think there is one book that is missing from this list. All single men need to read “I Hope They Serve Beer In Hell” By Tucker Max. It’ll change the way you look at everything and you will have a lot more success with women
I’ve read Calling in the One by Katherine Woodward Thomas and have even taken the teleclasses.Changed my perspective and my life. HIGHLY recommend
My ex and I have been seeing each other over the last couple of years and I have recently moved 1000 miles to be closer to her. I now find that she has some other guy that is text messaging her. What does this mean, should I ask her to stop? It really frustrates me.
Me: Married female 54. Problem: Love and am attracted to and want sex with my HUSBAND. How do I get him to talk to his doctor? He needs PRESCRIPTION for erection problems. He takes blood pressure meds which cause these problems. He is embarrassed to talk to Dr., but I am MISERABLE w/o sex. Serious (please) and well considered answers ONLY.
Me: Married female 54. Problem: Love and am attracted to and want sex with my HUSBAND. How do I get him to talk to his doctor? He needs PRESCRIPTION for erection problems. He takes blood pressure meds which cause these problems. He is embarrassed to talk to Dr., but I am MISERABLE w/o sex. Serious (please) and well considered answers ONLY.
Richard… Grow Up. There are many women closer to your own age that can appreciate you for who you are and what you have to offer. So GROW UP and look around you!!!!!
Consider all your options before you let go. If he won’t go to therapy with you, go alone and work on yourself first. Really make the effort to talk things over with him and listen. You can’t call it quits until you’ve done everything you could to save it. Maybe if you work together you can find a solution. Good luck.
In my my late 20′, seven years ago my ex walked out leaving me with two kids> I decided then and there no more relationships , just raise my kids. Now I am regretting that decison, but have no idea how to date or even where to start, or even where. Any ideas?