Yesterday, we gave the ladies a helpful list of things you should never say to a man. While that’s all well and good, I think that for the most part guys are the ones who really need the lesson in learning how to keep their mouths shut. Most of the women I know are smart enough to know when to bite their tongues, but the men on the other hand… it’s like verbal diarrhea. So fellas, if you ever plan on keeping a girlfriend for longer than five minutes, here are 10 things you should never say to her!
1. You said you were trying to lose weight, are you sure you want to order dessert?
We all know those girls that just seem to constantly complain about how many calories they consume hell, I’m probably one of them. But guys, just because we complain to you about it, doesn’t mean we’re asking you to turn into our nutritionist. Do I want dessert? Yes jackass, I DO!
2. You look really tired today
This one’s just a big slap in the face, and you know it. Telling someone, whether it’s a guy or girl, they look tired is basically the same as saying, “hey, you look like shit.” I don’t care if she does look like she’s just been run over by a truck, it’s never ok to tell a girl she looks tired.
3. My mom and my ex girlfriend are still really good friends
As if meeting a guy’s mommy isn’t intimidating enough, now we have to worry about her comparing us to your ex? Even if your ex still gets along with your mom, that kind of information definitely falls in the “need to know” category, so keep it to yourself.
4. Those jeans are a lot more flattering than the ones you wore yesterday
There is nothing more infuriating to a girl than backhanded compliments. A guy once told me that his way of flirting (without sounding too interested) was to pay a girl a compliment while still insulting her at the same time. Wrong approach dude! I know it’s a commonly held belief that girls like ass-holes, but if you’re trying to be one on purpose, you just come off looking stupid.
5. Chill Out
Put together, these have to be the two most annoying words in the English language. When I’m really heated, the last thing I want is for someone to tell me to chill out, relax or calm down whether I need to or not. It just makes me crazier and want to yell back, “why don’t you chill out?”
6. I’m not a fan of your friends
In the worlds of the Spice Girls, “If you wannabe my lover, you gotta get with my friends, make it last forever, friendship never ends.” I couldn’t have said it any better myself.
7. I’m on a diet
I’m all about feminism, equality, blah blah blah, but there’s just something unattractive about a guy who diets. Have a balanced lifestyle, exercise, all that good stuff but guys, if you’re going to be stricter about your calorie and fat intake than I am, it’s just a turn-off.
8. Are you in a bad mood or something?
The appropriate answer to an annoying quetsion like this is, “Well no, I wasn’t in a bad mood until you just asked me that!”
9. But my ex-girlfriend used to do it…
Then why don’t you just go back to your ex girlfriend? Guys, if you say this to a girl, no matter what the “it” is you’re referring to, you deserve to be dumped. No ifs, ands or buts about it.
10. Your sister’s really pretty
And what am I chopped liver? Do I really have to explain why this isn’t an appropriate thing to say? Obviously, I know you’re not purposefully trying to be rude, but a little sensitivity wouldn’t kill you buddy!
One statement that will #### off the male: What good are you doing; what are you hear for if all you can do is judge, make war or complain about everything?
Sorry ladies don’t ever get mad at us when we get mad at you, its always blah blah blah from all of you CUT IT OUT
So you’re so massively insecure that you can’t hear about other women being attractive, you can’t stand to know that the guy ever had previous girlfriends or that those girlfriends were able to get along with his family, you can’t bear to not have your dietary choices be the center of attention, and he shouldn’t discuss your appearance OR your emotional state with you.
Yeah, you’re not a crazy person who will drive away man after man. Not at all.
it is really easy to get mad,sometimes at that man.and being,a 48 year old woman and divc.more than one time,and i traveled and lived overseas.i am looking for the right man,that is for me,and only me.and i don’t have any kids,and i don’t want any.so the man that i am looking for has to be about me and me only.that is what i am use to,and i am not going to change at this age.i have come to far,at this point in my life.and yes i know i can see any man that i want to,weather it is for a long time relationship or for a how ever long it is.i am 48 years old.and the only pet i am going to have is my man,when i find the right on.one of my brothers,a war vet.said to me,i like the woman that i am living with,to be with me and me only,everything is about me,everything.and he was right,why in the #### would i share my man(REALLT AT THIS AGE)yes things like that can make me mad at that man,really fast.i am a SCORPIO,i don’t have any problems with relationships with men,i love men,the kind that i like.and i don’t like women,i never have,tht isn’t my thing,its called choice,this is the usa.i was born,here,light skined afro.amerc.woman.and i understand a lot of things,being marryed to milt.vets and living everyday and night in that world,you have to live it to know it.i can get mad,at that man fast,doing things around the house,or with the car isn’t like,the phone call, report back to the duty station,having to leave your wife.so yes i can get mad at that man,if he isn’t right.and yes i have gone with my man on buss.trips what woman haven’t done that.he is in the office,and i am shopping.meet him at the new office for lunch in the new city,then i am off where ever i am going and back to our hotel.so if the man does do or say the right thing i will get mad.Miss Vita M. king
Yeah, chill out is probably one of the worst things a guy could say to me. It ###### me off beyond belief.
This couldnt be more true. My boyfriend probably does about half the things on this list.
i don’t really get that mad at #### like that. i get mad when im being ignored or lied to. also cheaters.
I blogged a guys perspective, well, OK, just THIS guy: http://combind.blogspot.com/2011/04/10-ways-to-####-woman-off.html
Sorry folks! That link to my specific blog entry doesn’t work. Go to the general page; it’s the first one up: “Confessions of a Married Bachelor Mind” http://combind.blogspot.com/
Being hyperselective about what someone else might say works great when you are in your twenties or early thirties and there is an unlimited supply of “dates” to turn to if you should feel “offended”. But come on… “You look tired…” or “Your sister is really pretty”. You might just look tired and your sister just might be really pretty. Putting these imposing “rules” on someones speech is offensive. No one wants to go the long haul with someone who is so touchy. You ladies need to chill out…
How is it possible to pick out only 10 things that #### a woman off out of the millions of possible things that #### a woman off.
“Are you sure you want to order dessert” is better than “I’m not attracted to you anymore.” Deal with it.
i dont really care if someone asks me if im tired. usually i am tired soo that’s why i look tired and if not then who knows. why think so far into it? a guy being on a diet? thats so stupid because all girls ##### about is trying to lose weight (i’d know i am a girl). your sister’s really pretty would NEVER bother me. just because ummm gee what is it…oh yeah… i love my sister and she is really pretty to me. in fact if my boyfriend didn’t find her as beautiful a person as i did then we wouldn’t be together.
so many of these are really ridiculous. girls aren’t as fragile as we are stereotyped to be and one wrong word won’t set us off. puhhhlease.
Regarding #7 – NOT FAIR. Considering how overweight this country is, plenty of men should diet, and they shouldn’t be told they’re not being manly or attractive if they do it. A man on a diet is probably more likely to succeed if he isn’t embarrassed to tell his woman – she can be proud of him, support him, and help him reach his goals. Isn’t that what being in a healthy relationship is all about?
we complain to you about it, doesn’t mean we’re asking you to turn into our nutritionist. Do I want dessert? Yes jackass, I DO!
Wow!?!? The author of this article is really really off the wall. I don’t think this is any where near speaking to or for: all, or even a majority of women. It’s really offensive and shows that this person needs a lot of personal work before she would be ready to open herself up to a real loving relationship, I have a feeling that a man wouldn’t have to do much to upset or make this particular women upset. Why so upset and sensitive? Maybe some of these things are said to make conversation… EX: “your sister is really pretty” – maybe he is trying to get an idea of you and your sisters relationship and introducing the the topic as a positive reinforced way.. Please please get some help and work on yourself. You seem to be smart but have some self-esteem and anger issues.. Good luck