10 Ways Girls Flirt That Men Don’t Notice


If there’s one thing you learn today ladies, let it be this: The way girls flirt is like a sport. How? Because it takes a while to properly develop the skills needed to master the art.

Men are clueless confusing creatures and oftentimes miss the subtle signs we put forth when we’re trying to tell a dude we like them. If you don’t make the opposite sex aware that you’re flirting, theres a good chance they’ll have no idea. That said, here are 10 ways girls flirt that men don’t notice—which means you might have to be a little more forthright if you want to catch that cute guy’s eye for good.

ways girls flirt

1. Crossing your legs
Body language is difficult for some men to understand. One would think that crossing and uncrossing your legs is a pretty obvious flirting method—especially if you’re wearing a pair of high heels or a thigh-grazing skirt—but it’s a move that can easily be overlooked by guys.
Try this instead: Make light body contact. For example: Casually touch his arm while you’re talking, or playfully tap his shoulder if he makes a funny joke.

2. Twisting and flipping your hair
Women always seem to think that constantly twisting and flipping their hair makes them seem like they’re flirting, but it usually just come across as a nervous twitchy habit—not sexy.
Try this instead: Instead of maniacally tossing your hair around, style your locks in such a way that a few strands fall toward your eye, or try rocking some seriously sexy beach waves or a messy loose braid. Think about the hairstyles you feel most confident rocking and go with that. Odds are, it’ll translate.

3. Freshening up every five minutes
Guess what? If you dash to the bathroom to brush your hair or reapply your lipstick every five minutes, guys won’t notice.
Try this instead: Put as much effort into your appearance as you want before you meet them, but focus your energy on making great conversation instead of worrying about how you look.

4. Winking
Okay, it might seem cliché, but some women still might think winking is sexy. If you wink at a man, he might think you have a tick.
Try this instead: Make great eye contact while talking to him. It’s sexy, smart, and shows you’re really listening.

5. Laughing at everything he says
Laughing can be a great way to flirt—when things are genuinely funny. But if you’re speaking to a man and you laugh at everything he says, you’ll confuse him and come off looking a little ditzy—or nuts.
Try this instead: Smile often (nobody likes a sullen date) and laugh when you truly find something he says funny—not when you think you should be laughing.

6. Trying to make him jealous
One terrible way to flirt with someone is to try to make them jealous by mentioning ex-boyfriends, your dating history, or a list of guys that want to date you. If you get the urge, step up your game and act your age.
Try this instead: Highlight some recent personal or professional achievements you’re proud of. He’ll be way more impressed that way.

7. Complimenting him a gazillion times
Compliments are like alcohol: Fine in moderation but disastrous in excess. You can certainly say a few nice things but you don’t need to tell him how hot he is 400 times, or how totes amaze he is on the second date.
Try this instead: Tell him you like the way that shirt looks on him, how cool his sneakers are, or—if he cooked you dinner—compliment his skills in the kitchen. If you enjoyed meeting him, or hanging out, say that too.

8. Facebook flirting
In today’s day and age, Facebook has become a legit way to meet people. However, sending a guy you barely know flirty messages can be considered desperate or stalkerish.
Try this instead: If you see a cute guy on Facebook, see if you have any mutual friends and reach out to them for an introduction.

9. Chomping on your gum
Chewing gum isn’t sexy. Enough said.
Try this instead: Chew that gum before you go out to freshen your breath.

10. The goodnight text
Sending someone you’ve just met (or are casually dating) a goodnight text can come off as needy (as can “OMG LOOOOOVED meeting you, ur so amazing can’t wait to see again!!!!! xooxox”) Sending these types of texts could cause guys to view you as a typical “girl” instead of thinking you’re slyly flirting with them.
Try this instead: Don’t text a guy goodnight until you’ve been on two solid dates and know you’re going out again.

Okay ladies, now you’re clued into some techniques that men likely don’t consider flirting. So, don’t waste your time sending out the wrong signals—get out there and use the above tips to show him you’re into him. Good luck!

What do you think of these tips? True or not? Let us know in the comments below!


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  • Jo Dean

    Wow, excellent read dude. Well done.


  • mer

    I don’t think you give very good advice on this front. Guys aren’t nearly as oblivious as you want to believe, and most girls don’t think about flirting as much as you.

  • Jordan

    Men are to stupid to notice? Did you really just say that. Maybe men just dont have minds constantly filled with useless things like hair products like a certain opposite gender.

  • Joshua Drake

    Uhh, I find most of this article not quite accurate. Men notice pretty much everything about a woman, when flirting. It is after they are reasonably confident in the relationship that their attention diverts.

  • truth

    Its your job.. i mean your really paid just to write this shit,unreal
    maybe its time to put some hours in at the disabled school or help the old folks,i mean really this is your job and you get to pay rent from writing this crap go you

  • e v i l e d d y

    If women would just grow some confidence and tell the man they like what’s up then they wouldn’t have to blame us men for being “stupid for not noticing me glancing at him occasionally”

    Most women flirt for attention.. not because they like a man.

  • Get Real

    Hate to break this to you but if you actually get around a group of guys and hear us talk we do NOTICE EVERYTHING you do to yourself.

  • Yes itis

    Yes he gets paid for this and why do you care. If you dont like it, dont read it, and defiantly dont respond to it. Just leave

  • Mg

    Sexist bitch. With the way you talk I’m surprised they let men drive cars and feed themselves.

  • jeff

    The best way to flirt is to grab his crotch and then bite your lower lip.

  • Big g

    Some of us are daft, and some of us notice pretty much everything but have no clue which twitch is supposed to be flirty and which one means you’ve had too much.

  • Christoffer Hammarström

    Most wrong article ever, except for point nine. Do everything else opposite to what this article says.

    • zazz

      The author of this article is the only alien on planet earth so far. So we do know aliens exist

  • a guy

    “One would think that crossing and uncrossing your legs is a pretty obvious flirting method…” Speaking as a guy, I can safely say that crossing your legs tells a me nothing more than that you’re not paralyzed from the waist down. “…brushing his arm if he makes a funny joke” makes about as much sense. If you brushed a guy’s arm every time he made a funny joke, it would make about as much sense to him as if you stood on your head every time he agreed with you.

  • fisher

    people put entirely too much thought into this crap.

  • Anonymous

    Obvious troll is obvious.

  • Dippy

    I hate it when girls flirt by kicking me in the testicles…more than once. Yes, I get it girl–you like me! Just stop kicking me in the nuts.

  • Brad

    As a 23 year old guy I have to say this list is DEAD ON! Any woman trying to get my attention or flirt with me would do well to follow its advice.

  • Mox

    If you’re really sweet and beautiful, the best way to flirt is to cover my ears with your thighs. Then I know you are into, and I am so, so into you.

  • Grant W

    Another good way to be clear in your flirts is to hand a guy a hand written note that says:
    “Meet me in the 3rd floor bathroom in 10 minutes so I can f*ck your brains out, then suck you dry.”

  • ogscott

    the good night text is classic

  • Durrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Hurrrrrrr

    Here’s a good way to flirt. Walk up to the guy you’re interested in and say, “Hey, want to go back to my place and fuck?” Works every time!

  • Not Dumb

    Other than the fact this author obviously hates men, these tips are subjective at best. Ladies, ask a man about what he like, not another woman.

  • Eric

    I’m a guy and I disagree with not sending Facebook messages. If a girl encounters my profile via a friend and thinks I’m intriguing, I’m flattered to receive a flirty message and would probably pursue it if the interest was mutual. But if she seemed really crazy and needy I’d be hesitant.

  • Anonymous

    Trash article is trash.

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