Flirting is like a sport, it takes a while to master and properly develop. Men are confusing creatures and sometimes dont notice all the ways that women flirt. Its not like they enroll in a Women 101 class to teach them all about us though I always joke that the dating world would be a much saner place if all men did. If you dont make the opposite sex aware that youre flirting, theres a good chance they’ll have no idea. Here are the top 10 ways women flirt with men that they dont notice. After all, some men can be a little clueless.
1. Body Language
Body language is difficult for some men to understand. One would think that crossing and uncrossing your legs is a pretty obvious flirting method, especially if you’re wearing a pair of really high heels. Its a very sexy approach, but some men are too dense to realize its considered flirting! If you flirt using body language, you should think of a different approach that all men pick up on. Try a method that involves body contact, like brushing his arm if he makes a funny joke.
2. Twisting Your Hair
Men are usually in their own world. If they see a pretty girl, they notice her, but they dont always pay attention to all the details. Using your hair to be flirtatious is something that men usually arent aware of. This can come across as a nervous twitchy habit, instead of something thats sexy. You dont need to constantly run your fingers through your hair to get a mans attention just smile.
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3. Freshening up
Men don’t notice every little detail about a woman. If they did, we wouldnt love them as much as we do. If you go to the bathroom to brush your hair halfway into a conversation, they won’t notice. Put as much effort into your appearance as you want before you meet them but it’s better to focus your energy on making great conversation. Save the hairbrushing for when you get home.
If you wink at a man, he might think you have a tick. It will get his attention but it wont leave him thinking youre a sultry seductress. Winking isnt something that a woman should do. Joey Tribbiani from the TV show Friends can wink at ladies, but if you want to flirt with a man, dont wink at him.
5. Laughing At Everything He Says
Laughing can be a great way to flirt – who doesn’t love that ego boost of meeting somebody that finally “gets it.” But if youre speaking to a man and you laugh at everything he says, you’ll only confuse him aside from coming off just plain silly. He’s going to wonder what’s actually so funny.
6. Trying To Make Him Jealous
One terrible way to flirt with someone is to try to make them jealous. Immature men or drama kings may pick up on this, but the mature ones will see right through it. Besides, most guys are too stupid to realize you’re trying to make them jealous. So step up your game and act your age. Using jealousy as a flirting tactic is for children.
7. Keep The Compliments To Yourself
Compliments are like alcohol. They are good in moderation but disastrous in excess. You can compliment a guy on his outfit but you don’t need to tell him how hot he is 10 times. Plus, chances are if you compliment someone as a way of flirting, they will most likely just think youre just being nice. Come up with a more obvious way of flirting that even clueless men will notice.
8. Facebook Flirting
In todays day and age, Facebook has become a way to meet people. Its a sad fact, but true. If you send someone a flirty message on Facebook, they most likely wont realize that youre flirting with them. Some people dont check their messages or they dont always respond. Don’t send flirty messages like you’re scared. Save the flirting for real life.
9. Chomping on Your Gum
Chewing gum isn’t sexy. If you try to be sexual with your gum to pick up a guy, he will most likely think something is wrong with you. Gum chewing should be saved for your guy friends not to impress a man you like.
10. The Goodnight Text
Sending someone youre casually dating a goodnight text isnt flirting, its just needy. They will view you as a typical girl instead of thinking youre flirting with them. Save your flirting for in person meet-ups, it’ll be much more effective than a text message. Technology may be taking over the world, but when it comes down to it, good ol’ fashioned one-on-one is still the best way to go.
Okay ladies, now youre clued into some techniques that men dont consider flirting. So, dont waste your time sending out the wrong signals, men dont notice them. Get out there and get your flirt on!
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Carly Spindel is a writer and hopeless romantic. She is a world traveler who has lived in Paris and London. She resides in New York and is always on the go. She can usually be found at her favorite caf enjoying chocolate mousse while people watching, which is one of her favorite hobbies. Carly spends the rest of her time focusing on her five dearest past times: traveling, learning about different cultures, shopping, reading, and of course looking for Mr. Right.